Hello all,
Been a while since last I wrote. My slave and I were having real difficulty with the CB3000 and finally decided to buy a CS-100. It is a metal belt with metal tube. It was ordered in December and arrived at long last on Jan 15. My slave has been wearing it since (for these last two days) and except for an adjustment to make the belt tighter, so far, so good. Other than a little chaffing (which is to be expected with a new belt),there have been no pinching problems and I think if we get the fit right it will be secure. It looks hot and my slave is very happy.
I intend to leave my slave in this belt for a while. He needs to experience what being frustrated feels like. I want him ready and very horny all the time. He has expressed the feeling to me that he likes being owned and that it feels most real to him through his penis and balls. There are many aspects of chastity and except for downright pain, he likes them all! (Orgasm denial, being forceably controlled, being in bondage when out of the device so as to not be able to touch his penis, serving me, psychologically changing his focus to me, gaining pleasure through my pleasure - and orgasms, learning new ways to experience sexual pleasure tactically -more on this in a minute, teasing, anal play and milking, and eventually perhaps a mind blowing orgasm.) Some fun ways to dominate him are things like: after a few weeks in the device, giving him a chance to get to a fruitful milking (or orgasm if I desire) by using only two fingers on the front of his shaft, or on the head of his penis only, time limits, stroke limits and so on. If he does not achieve a fruitful milking or orgasm, then he is put back in the belt and it will train his body and mind to really feel my touch the next time he has a chance. It could be weeks or even months before he is able to achieve this, but it is one of our mutual goals. It is amazing in two days of denial, he is already much more docile and eager to please me. Before this he had really lost that "Yes, Sir" attitude. His heart had just gone out of it. Now his hard-on has gone out of it! At a minimum he will spend a week at a time and right now I am building up his max time. He has just started school and has a project that he does next Jan - March. I intend to build him up so that he goes the full three months in the device! If he does well in school I subtract time of lockup. If he does poorly, I add time. We'll start with more than a week, but slave does not get to know how long he'll spend locked up or when he'll be out.
Our rules are simple: I am in total control. I decide when ( and if) he comes out, and if he gets played with, comes to a cowpers firing (milking), or has an orgasm (which will be rare). My slave feels much better with full balls (he likes his essence in him and I must say he really does serve me better with full balls). We use the word penis for his dick, and cock for mine since there can only be 1 cock in our house. His "boipenis" needs to be trained. Also he is not to ask about his penis needing attention, or being let out of the CS-100. If he does it means I will add a month to the time of lock-up. If he pleases me well, sexually and otherwise, I will subtract time. If he does not please me well enough or needs to be punished, I add time or spank him. He will learn to do what I ask him in a timely manner, saying, "Yes, Sir"! or I will discipline him. I hold all the keys and he has willingly surrendered control. He has asked me to be strict and let him spend some significant time locked up. This is going to be a fun and very erotic adventure!!! Wish me luck and post comments if you like.
One of the things that My slave and I are doing now is learning all of the protocols that we have written for him follow in the protocol manual. This is part of O/our contract. I have given him assignments for the last 2 days to memorize some of the general protocols and today, some of the "action" protocols. Yesterday he failed to remember 2 of them on a written test and so earned 2 swats. Today, he did better and only earned 1.
W/we have a list of general protocols, things he is always supposed to do, and a list of 4 levels of "action" protocols. Our four levels are: social, low, home and high. We have 3 times where no protocols are to be followed: around minors, in case of imminent danger, and when slave is not accompanied by Master at home or in public.
I cannot tell you how well instilling some discipline is working. It is helping us define our places or roles, it is helping the memory of my slave (knowing there is a punishment coming if he does not study), it is helping Me, as Master to learn the protocols also, it is training My slave to know that My will be done, it is teaching My slave that I, as Master care about this relationship so much--in it's present form---that I, as Master, am willing to put the time in to memorize the protocols, to care about the well being of My slave so much that I would take the time and energy necessary to direct his actions and help him be the best slave, man, and human being he can be. In other words, to direct him to become his best potential. And if that isn't a turn on, gentlemen who aspire to be, or are, a Master, then I don't know what is!
My slave is a kick-ass man with a willingness to serve that I have never seen. he honors Me every day with his service and, truly for the first time in this Master's life, unconditional love. I am so full of love and gratitude for this man and the blessing that God has bestowed on Me through this man and this lifestyle that I constantly thank God, the Ultimate Master of us all, for all the wonderful blessings he has given Me-- the best of which is this man, my slave, my friend, and someday soon, my husband.
Wow! What a ride! Learning to be a Master is a joyful thing and filled with wonder, awe, expectation, and yes-- responsibility. My slave has given Me total control over everything: his body, his boi penis (by way of chastity), his worldy goods and finances, and his heart (yay!) he does not get to cum or play with himself without My permission. Because I love to play with him so much, I don't give him permission to play with himself. It is part of his training: learning to accept what Master gives him and being thankful. Why just today he did not get his chores done by the time I got home, and so the correction was to make him wait another day for his "orgasm." his "orgasm" is really a cowpers firing of white liquid. Instead, I bound him spread eageled on the bed, crawled on top of him, took him out of his CB3000, put a rubber on him and fucked Myself to a really good orgasm. Then I locked him back in (he actually put himself in and I locked it) I keep his balls full so his essence stays in him which causes him to focus and serve Me better. I am not letting him have a traditional orgasm. Period. None. Last time I did, it took him nearly a week to return to normal. He will learn to derive pleasure from My pleasure and I will learn to think of My pleasure without regard to whether he is pleasured or not. Slaves exist to make their Master's lives easier and more pleasurable, not the other way around.
Found out last night that W/we are not trashy and that I, the Master, do not thrive in dark, anonymous spaces. Leave that for those who feel it necessary. I don't. No judgement, just not for Me or My slave(s). My boi and I love each other very much and W/we are interested in sharing in scenes and with those with whom W/we can become comfortable. That sounds hot. Not even being able to see the face, let alone, body, penis, or cock of anonymous guys makes Me nervous - not hot. I don't get hard and I feel out of place. I have been an out, gay male for more than half My life and I am in good physical condition-still lookin' good for the most part( in My 40s). I don't need to "hide" in such clandestine places. I would much rather fuck outside--and even involve others. I desire to have someone who watches a scene of O/ours agree to be bound and shaved. Ideally they would leave the scene hairless--all of it--all over his body, but I could get off with just shaving his crotch and underarms. I would then bring him to the edge over and over and not let him cum. Nervana! Most guys don't have the discipline to stop and so I would force that. Once I let him out, he could jack off if need be, but I would then spank him!
Recently I have begun a search of culinary schools for my slave. I wish him to get a degree in culinary arts so he can serve Me better, both at home and professionally through a catering business. Remember, as Master I own everything and make all decisions so he will abide by what I say.
Interestingly, W/we have already talked about Me having another slave. This other slave would be a live in guy, be physically attractive and keep himself that way and have a true slave heart. he would surrender to Me completely putting all his worldy goods, and finances at My disposal to help My household and him as well. he would do all housework and yardwork -preferrably be a gardner or landscape artist--as opposed to just some guy who mows the grass. he would be expected to serve at parties, assist the alpha slave and follow all protocol. he would be chaste and wear a chastity device with Me as the only keyholder. he would be allowed to date and even have sex but only when I say so. Sex would also be expected in our household as well and he would need to be ready to serve Master's needs at any time. he would be given the opportunity to learn about cooking and participate as an employee in My catering business. he would be allowed to live in My lovely home and learn about many things as I, the Master, would direct him and help him realize his full potential as a human being, a man, and as a spiritual being- just as I am with the slave I have. I am looking forward to the time when I can complete My household with such a slave.
When we began our new lifestyle on Sept.10, little did I know that just a short month later we would no longer be dominant and submissive, we would be fully Master and slave with a few exceptions. The few exceptions are that there is no boot or shoe licking, slaveboi is allowed on the furniture, he must only kneel when I come home - not every time I enter or leave a room and we will have to mitigate our actions in some public arenas (places we used to go and friends and family.) Also slaveboi and I are equal humans and men. Neither one of us feel superior to the other, we just are well suited to our places in this relationship and except for occasional role play reversal (i.e. he ties me up!) --it is just that--play. I am still in control and can and will institute penalties is he goes too far. We do not change places. These are are permanent roles (places).
Over the last month the journey has been incredible. Little by little my slaveboi has yielded total control and I have taken it. It is an awesome responsibility and I love my slaveboi more than ever before. When he first approached me about chastity, I thought it would be a fun novelty. It is now a requirement as it would be impossible to train slaveboi and his boipenis without penis control. For him, not being able to touch his boipenis, see it, much less play or cum has resulted in his strengthening commitment to serve me and focus his attention where it belongs--on me. He derives his pleasure from serving me whether in regular life or sexually. He willingly gives me whatever I want and at times I make my slaveboi do things to train him and simply because I can. It needs to be reinforced, especially at the beginning of a Master/slave relationship what each others' place is, and that the slaveboi serves the Master in all things. Period. He needs to learn what is and what is not acceptable to Master.
We recently went to a Bear Camp where we live and it was the first time that my (then) sub showed the world that he was chaste. We went without clothes for most of the time and had wild sex outside with full bondage where it was allowed-all the while his CB3000 clearly evident on his boipenis. It was exhilirating to have people catch us, watch and even want to participate. There were some interested folks in our lifestyle (which has changed from sub/dom to Master/slave) and even some who wanted to be put in bondage and dominated. It can be a rather powerful and seductive mind fuck.
The day we arrived my sub was due for a chance at an orgasm. He was instructed that if he could fuck me to his orgasm he could have one. It was a great fuck, but he did not cum. I edged him afterward but did not allow him to cum and put his CB3000 right back on. He then drew a 10 and is now serving his 10 day term. I had intended on the third day of our camp to allow him out of his CB3000 for play and milking but he failed to do what I asked of him the night before. I told him that he should not cease begging to be let out at breakfast. Sadly for him, but kind of hot for me, he didn't beg even once, so in the device he stayed. Because he failed to do what I asked, I am making him serve this term with NO BOIPENIS play at all. Cleanings and milkings. He is not allowed to tell me "it's not fair" and one day slipped, so I added a day to his term. He is now due Oct. 14 for a milking, cleaning, and orgasm. If he does what I tell him to and does not fuck up before then, there will be no restrictions placed on his orgasm. If he fucks up at all, with anything, I will place restrictions on his orgasm (I made him beg me to) even though he will have gone a whole month. He doesn't really need to cum, he just wants to. Believe me, any real fuck up and the restriction will be such that he doesn't cum and on the device will go and on the count to his next "try" for an orgasm. I, however, have let him know a little of the sex scene that day and he is very titilated and wants his orgasm. I want it, too, as I love my (now) slaveboi and wish him this release. We are not in a penalty oriented relationship so I only institute "corrections" when necessary. I know his orgasm will let his essence escape but it will build back in a few days.
We've been having trouble with our chastity device. It has taken longer to adjust and in only this one month, we have had several broken rings and security problems. We've ordered a number of items off the net to correct this, so we'll see. The CB6000 looks promising but they don't make it in black yet and slaveboi not being able to see his boipenis is a big turn on for both of us (and others).
After we returned from the bear camp, the natural progression to Master/slave took place. It took a few days, but before long I began to take control and he began to push me to take it and give it up himself. Today I feel better and more happy than ever in my life and me and my slaveboi have never been closer or happier. Stay tuned for more details and for a diary of daily affairs as well as several different contracts.
It all began at the beginning of September, 2007. I was having a discussion with my loving partner, who I adore and will soon be my husband, and we were talking about how our relationship had recently gone a few notches higher on the intimate scale. I am madly and passionately in love with this man and I was thrilled for our relationship to be growing.
He informed me that he knew how to make it more so and began to talk about our sex life. Now our sex life was already fantastic, so this intrigued me. To add spice, I had recently made him sign some contracts stipulating cock play or lack thereof and penalties if he didn't do what I wanted. Things like: "I won't play with or even touch my cock and I will not masturbate until my partner gets home and plays with me. If I fail, I will not be allowed to have an orgasm for two days." He willingly signed all of them. This resulted in sex far beyond what we had experienced before.
During our subsequent talks, he admitted to me that he has a hard time (!) keeping his hands off of his cock and often plays with himself when I'm not around. This does not always result in orgasm, but nonetheless it is sexual play that doesn't involve me. He told me that he had been researching chastity devices on the net and asked me if I would I like to see them. Being curious I agreed and began research with him. At first I was a little unsure as he informed me that if he wore a chastity device, I would be his only keyholder and would have complete control over when he played with his cock and when and if he had an orgasm. He had long wanted to be a submisive and when he first shared this with me it made me think about the last year we have been together and all the signs that pointed to this. I immediately recognized the responsibility of both the lifestyle and the wear and care of the cb3000 on my man and it scared me, but power can be an awfully alluring aphrodisiac.
I studied this some more, visiting several websites and reading the stories, descriptions, etc... In the next few days, my partner and I discussed a great many things and played with vanilla, short contracts some more. After a few more days research and thinking about it, I left him a note one morning asking him to order the cb3000. It was ordered before I got home!
We waited in anticipation, hardly being able to sleep. Meanwhile, through my research, I came up with a seven page contract about the wear and care of this device. (More on that later) The crazy thing was, when it arrived it took two weeks to get a proper fit and we are just now settling in to the correct ring size, etc... How frustrating!!!
At long last, we seem to have gotten it right - a good fit that he can't get out of. For us, this device is not about penalty, rather discipline. I soon realized that this would be more than just a casual thing for my wearer and through a lot of heart to heart talks, we have adopted a submissive, dominant lifestyle. We are not master/slave although there are certainly some overtones like it present between us. WOW! What that did for our relationship!!! Guys - if you think your relationship can't get any better, think again. I am more deeply and madly in love with this man for his willingness to serve me and live a chaste lifstyle where I hold all the keys than any relationship I have ever been in! It seems we are both well suited to the roles we have taken and to this lifesylte in general.
OK, a little about the contract. We determine a lock-up period with a standard deck of cards. The numbered cards 2-9 represent directly the number of days , 10s and face cards are 10 days and an ace is 15 days. I shuffle the cards and force my wearer to choose a card thus making him "ask" for his term. His first card was an eight and he is currently serving that term. Stay tuned for more postings.